F@*k a PhD

"Do you think that people are going to listen to you because you have your PhD? F@*k that. People aren't going to listen to you because of that"- A bad bi*tch aka boss lady aka my boss.

Process Consultation: The Helper

Many people ask me what an i-o psychologist is... well that is beside the point. It processes consultation time. They help clients discover the truth of their problem through exploration of different modes and building a relationship. The best thing about this job is 1) Your client's problems are always there, not for you to carry on 2) Don't give advice.

Playing Expert

In this mode, we hold hopeful assumptions. The client knows the problem, the client communicates important information, and the client can receive the consequences of discovery. I feel this about wisdom. We hope and probably are overly confident about things we go into. Assume that they know best, we know best, and it'll even go the best. Honestly, sounds the best to think that way. Well, maybe saying best is setting a high expectations like wanting someone to build a house with a wrap-around porch. Anyways, we assume the best.

Playing Doctor

Here we assume the client reveals related information, the client will receive suggestions, and the practitioner's diagnosis will produce a cured/improved outcome. If one assumption is not met it affects all others. If we aren't upfront about ourselves, how are we supposed to receive help?

The more one can talk to oneself about oneself the more aware they are

Process Consultation

Here we are curious. Be cautious of assuming the client or even ourself knows the problem. This is the mode to start in or as I told my consulting challenge group "imma an exploratory girl". The key is to remove any biases. The goal is to help, not to give advice. In life its nice to feel as though you "know" but recently I've been reading how many highly educated, intellectual, and people that read more books than most actually like to think that they 'don't know'. Why? It opens you to possibilities. I go to spin class a couple of times a week. I assume based on my experiences. I assume Morgan's classes are going to make me sweat more than another class. Yet, sometimes I am wrong. Or even I find myself lowkey having a therapeutic time when I need it most. Or I go on the trip and lose my false narratives of what might happen.

Think Again Excerpt

Balance. Yes, the expert might make you feel certain about things, but what about things that aren't certain? What if I go on that dating app, what if I apply to PhD program without having my master's, what if my professor signs me up for a challenge that I probably wouldn't have signed up for by choice, what if the very show I assumed I didn't like I would end up binging, what if. Life is possibilities, maybe our thinking can leave room for assuming that we don't know. Just maybe if you are keeping up, then you know when I don't know something, imma know it real soon.

Xoxo, don't ask me for advice and somewhere without assumptions and a 25 week PhD student